A Sex Therapist is a mental health professional trained in providing system and educational therapeutic services to individuals, couples, various relationship structures, families and groups of folks experiencing psychological, medical, or social concerns around sexuality; including the diagnosis and treatment of certain conditions through a therapeutic approach.

What a Sex Therapist is NOT… A certified & ethical sex therapist will never, ever, EVER ask to have sex with you or request to watch you engage in any form of sexual activity. If you have experienced this or are aware of this happening please contact your state’s licensing board.

No, I promise there is nothing wrong with you being curious about yourself and your relationship to your sexuality. Many people—especially those who are neurodivergent or who have experienced complex trauma—find themselves feeling uncertain about their relationship to sex and sexuality. You might wonder if your level of desire is “normal,” feel overwhelmed by sensory experiences, struggle to understand your needs, or notice that past experiences have shaped how safe or comfortable intimacy feels in your body.

These questions and experiences are far more common than many people realize.

Our relationship to sex is influenced by many things: our nervous system, our sensory experiences, past relationships, cultural and societal messages, gender and identity, and whether our bodies have felt safe in moments of intimacy. For neurodivergent folks in particular, sexuality can sometimes feel confusing, pressured, or difficult to navigate in ways that others may not always understand.

In our work together, there is no expectation that you should feel a certain way about sex. Instead, we approach these questions with curiosity and compassion. Together we can explore what intimacy, connection, desire, boundaries, and safety mean for you—in your body, in your relationships, and on your own terms.

There is no “right” way to experience sexuality. The goal is not to fit into a predetermined mold, but to better understand yourself and create relationships and experiences that feel authentic, safe, and supportive.

Yes. Many people live at the intersection of neurodivergence and complex trauma.

Neurodivergence—such as ADHD, autism, or being both (sometimes called AuDHD)—simply describes natural differences in how a person’s brain processes the world. These differences can shape things like attention, sensory experiences, communication, and how someone regulates their emotions and energy.

Complex trauma, on the other hand, often develops when someone has had to navigate repeated experiences that felt overwhelming, unsafe, or unsupported over time.

For many neurodivergent people, growing up in environments that didn’t understand their needs can be incredibly stressful. Being misunderstood, pressured to mask or “fit in,” experiencing bullying, or constantly feeling like you are too much or not enough can place a heavy load on the nervous system over time.

Because of this, some neurodivergent folks also carry the effects of complex trauma.

Sometimes the experiences can overlap. Things like emotional overwhelm, shutting down, sensory sensitivity, difficulty trusting others, or feeling constantly on edge can be connected to neurodivergence, trauma, or a combination of both.

In therapy, we don’t rush to label or separate every experience. Instead, we approach your story with curiosity and care. Together, we make space to understand how your nervous system has adapted and what support, safety, and connection might look like for you now.

You are not “too complicated.” Your experiences make sense, and healing and understanding are absolutely possible.

No, you are not broken, your body is not broken. The pain can come from a variety of concerns some psychological, some medical, and even emotional pain. This does not mean that you are broken. A therapist can explore what healing can look like for you.

When someone has lived through repeated or ongoing experiences that felt overwhelming, unsafe, or unsupported—especially within important relationships—their nervous system naturally learns ways to adapt in order to get through. This is often what we mean when we talk about complex trauma.

These adaptations can show up in many different ways. Some people feel constantly on edge, as though their body is always scanning for what might go wrong. Others notice feeling numb, shut down, or disconnected from their bodies and emotions. You might long for closeness and connection, while at the same time finding relationships confusing, overwhelming, or difficult to trust.

For many people, complex trauma can also show up as people-pleasing, difficulty setting boundaries, deep self-doubt, or a quiet sense of shame that can be hard to put into words. At times it may feel like your body reacts before your mind can understand why.

If any of this resonates, please know that these responses are not signs that something is wrong with you. They are the nervous system’s wise and creative ways of helping you survive difficult experiences.

In our work together, we approach these patterns with curiosity, care, and compassion. Through somatic and experiential therapy, we gently support the nervous system in finding more moments of safety, grounding, and connection. Healing is not about forcing change—it is about creating space where your body and nervous system can slowly begin to experience something different.